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A New Life

8 Jan

Lot’s have things have happened since I’ve been here last.

But most importantly, and as a little bit of a random thread – I’ve finally found a way to embrace and handle my ADD as an adult. Over the past month or so, my life has become so much more enjoyable and time keeps opening up to appreciate how lovely life really is.

The things I’m learning today can be helpful not just for people with disabilities, but for all of us who didn’t have a great example growing up, or are trying to do it all alone.

I’m so excited to share what I’ve learned with the world – to help others who feel like they’re living in a tornado. I want them to have hope and find time for joy.

I can proudly and loudly say I’ve invested enough in myself to start working with a therapist – every week, i learn a little tidbit about being organized in a calm and organized manner. Each week, I learn a little something new and I’ll post them each separately.

So far we have:

I strongly suggest doing these one at a time. If you get overwhelmed you’re likely to fall right off the wagon. I promise -it’s all possible and will get easier each week.

Week 1: Tracking Your Time

Week 2: Simple Routines & Your Planner

Week 3: The Big 5 on Cleaning & The Saturday Sortbox

Week 4: Making Your Evenings Productive AND Enjoyable

Week 5: Balance

Week 6: Travel & The Holidays

Week 7: Maintaining When Life Seagulls Everywhere

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The Power of the Pencil Skirt

8 Mar

I am proudly “Just a Skirt”.

After a decade of assuming my work would speak for me I am finally realizing that femininity is as a serious part of my identity, personal and professional.

There are millions of us go to work every day with drone-like rhythm and work so vigorously to reach the top. Days stretch beyond the 12-hour mark, and there is no time or passion left for our personal style and hobbies until we leave them behind all together.

Last summer I found I wasn’t alone. My fellow work-a-holics were feeling down in their mismatched pants and jackets we felt unconfident, men and women both saw right through us. We were taught our work defined us, if the work was strong so were we. But when we walked into the room, our rumpled demeanor wasn’t enough to command any confidence, or any attention at all.

The Power of the Pencil Skirt

Despite the obvious challenges and restrictions of the day we coveted the style of vintage days “when men were men and women were skirts”. On the occasional day when we found the time and to slip into skirt we felt different, carried ourselves differently, a transformation of poise inside and an outer presence that people noticed.

Of course we enjoyed the IT department swivel around to watch us eat sushi during a lunchtime meeting- and our computers fixed much more quickly. But we found there was more than the typical leverage in sexuality. To project and communicate that preparedness outwardly was staggeringly powerful. The upkeep of our femininity turned out to be as important as keeping an agenda organized, answering every client email, and being prepared for every presentation. People knew, when we walked into the room we were on top of it- it being everything.

Here I invite you to play voyeur as I fumble through my life experiment, learning and attempt to reclaim the delicate balance of what it means to be a woman, professional, on top of her shit while a wife and style lover.